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How the Lack of Courage can Kill your Dreams

     Throughout the many pathways of life, we embark upon experiences that are sometimes challenging and sometimes not. The question is; how does one cross those barriers that seem so difficult to conquer? If you can't relate to barriers in life, then think about that one resistance that seems to paralyze you with fear and holds you hostage for no apparent reason. Barriers could be you trying to get into a school of your choice, you trying to leave a relationship that is unhealthy, a desire to leave an old job for a better job one, or anything else that creates fear unknowingly. The answer is, you must have Courage.
     Not only should you have courage, but you must practice courage with consistency. Courage is defined as "the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger,pain, etc." 
     When it comes to standing before barriers in life, make a practice of overcoming your barriers rather than taking the pathway of least resistance. In other words, without courage, it is hard to practice anything consistently!
     Onward, life is filled with different types of barriers that don't go away. One may ask; "Well how do I conquer them?" First, you must recognize the fear that seems to paralyze your emotions. Many people fail at trying to maintain courage because they allow their emotions to dictate their pathways in life. In other words, having a weak mindset about the situation at hand will cause one to have a lack of courage which ultimately leads to failure. So, make a good practice of these 3 things below:

(a)  Exercise your rights: This is done by believing that you have the ability to overcome that which is before you and without exercising your beliefs, your mind gets weaker. 

(b) Speak it into existence: Some people will never believe in conquering their goals because they never speak it. When you speak of having courage, this solidifies your attitude towards moving through the storm standing before you. Remember; once you have moved through your barriers don't look back.

(c) Be consistent: Once you start moving towards conquering whatever it is you set out to conquer, you must be consistent. Don't just say what you have a desire to do, better yet, move your words into action and stay consistent with it. Even if you are moving one yard a day in conquering your goals, the good thing is that you're moving. This shows consistency and consistency pays off!

     Finally, anyone that has a mind to think, has the mind to conquer. Remember, be courageous in all of your efforts when it comes down to conquering your goals. Don't allow others to confine you or contain you with fear. Liberate yourself beyond your wildest imagination and continue to stand upon your strengths and push aside your weakness.

By Christopher-Ty
  Author of "For The Love Of Her"

  
      
     

The ART of Believing in Self.....

     I have met many people along this pathway in life and would you believe that some of the most incredible people struggle with believing in "self". Believing in yourself sounds easy, but in truth, when people fail to believe in "self" they end up getting trapped in bad relationships, battle with feeling inadequate when it comes to making hard decisions, or simply depend on a host of others in order to make a decision on whether or not to do it or not.

    First of all, in order to believe in "self" you must understand that you are a unique individual that is capable of moving forward on behalf of your decisions even if others fail to see what you see. The art of believing in "self" is something that is bestowed within all of us. The difference lies within the way we choose to act on what we desire to conquer. Many people remain stagnated in life because they fail to see themselves any further than where they stand at the moment, so after while they become content.

     If you believe that you have the ability to believe, then moving forward on your goal becomes an experience that is easy to conquer. For example, do you believe that you can set goals and conquer them? This question is relatively easy to answer because it doesn't require much work to say "yes" or "no". The problem starts with this. Many of us set goals, but then it stops right there. So many goals go unconquered because people forget to stay active at achieving their goals and before long, this theory of "belief" becomes diminished. As time goes on, we sometimes develop a mindset to start projects over and over without ever conquering them and after while we develop this type of behavior which makes us feel incomplete. 

     

 Here are some tips you can follow in order to make yourself a better YOU, as you create a stronger Belief within yourself.

• Know who you are and believe within "yourself" by speaking this subconsciously. I still make good practice by looking at myself in the mirror and saying, "you have the potentials to do what you desire. Chris, (I tell myself), I believe that you are able to succeed at this challenge. This is done for several reasons. First, words are powerful and if anyone is going to speak your future into existence, its you. Second, it helps to create a stronger belief systems within yourself.
• Next, Pull your potentials forward and give them responsibilities. There are many people that have potentials to do great things, but they never give their talents responsibility. When talents aren't given responsibilities, then their belief system becomes weaken overtime. Before long, one can find themselves giving up on many things and this only weakens their self-esteem level. 
• Finally, remind yourself of the challenge. Whatever the challenge maybe that stands in front of you.., when you remind yourself of conquering it, this helps to exercise your belief in doing so. Exercising your belief is synonymous to exercising your muscles. Just as your muscles grow when you exercise them, believing in yourself will also grow stronger when you remind yourself of the challenge your're seeking to conquer. Remember this, if everyone in this world believed in you more than you believe in yourself, its useless.You always have the potentials to conquer goals, but without activity, you will remain stagnated.  Christopher-Ty..