Amazing You!!!

      In case you didn't know, we all have this incredible ability to create the experience that is to come within our lifetime. Once this is realized, the question then becomes, are you willing to create it in order to become a better you?
     Many people go through life changing experiences simply because of something they may have desired. This is true on many levels, and when circumstances become too much for us to handle, many people are left to reap the consequences. Unfortunately, some of those consequences are more devastating than what we can handle.
     As I sat down in the barber's chair this morning to get my hair cut, my barber had a lot of things weighing heavily on his heart. He talked about his current situation and how it was weighing him down in life. I asked him if I could ask him one simple question and he said "yeah." I said, without you sharing your personal business with me, do you find that you may have brought this on yourself now that the dust is all stirred up? He answer with all honesty and said "yes." My point is this. If we engage in experiences that will cause us to tear down, what we've worked on building up within ourselves (character traits), why would we be selfish enough to engage in something that may destroy us?
     Just as the barber stated, the life experience that he engaged in was not only fortifying, but it brought him temporal satisfaction. The sad part is this...He never considered his end results and now he's having to pay emotionally. This is where the hook can be found at in life. Anything that brings about temporary pleasure (emotionally), often times will deliver having to deal with difficult consequences.
   Because of the life experience in which he CHOSE to go through, he is now left with having to deal with man made consequences. One thing about consequences is this; they are never determined by
the person committing the act.
     For example, if I start stealing, the consequence is jail. If I start committing acts of violence, then the consequence could be death. Or if I start practicing at what I wish to conquer, then my consequence will be some type of reward.
     Remember, as growing individuals that are seeking strength within ourselves, we will always have the ability to embrace wisdom and knowledge simply by thinking. Without taking into consideration our ability to "think" before acting, we will always dismiss the reality of the experience we would have allowed ourselves to engage in.
   Finally, never allow yourself to engage in meaningless experiences, especially those experiences that have the ability to arrest you emotionally. When we put our thoughts to work prior to engaging in anything that may destroy us, it is then that we construct a belief system that holds you (us) accountable to being the best that we can possibly be.
     Remember, always love yourself!!

Author Christopher Ty
http://www.amazon.com/For-Love-Her-Christopher-TY-ebook/dp/B00KQSX2OC

Indie Authors: Creating Your Worth...

                                             Indie Authors: Finding Success   

      If you’ve ever wonder where to start with wanting to write your first book, just ask yourself, what topic do I desire to write on? There are many Indie Authors that have jumped onto the band wagon of self- publishing their work and many have found success while doing so.

      

     One such writer is, Christopher Ty. For years, Christopher Ty toyed around with the ideal of penning his autobiography but never put the pen to the paper. Then, after realizing that the world needed to hear his story, he started writing.

    

      After sitting down, collecting his thoughts, and outlining what it was he wanted to say, he was on his way. For the Love of Her came out in 2014 and since the inception of his work Christopher Ty has seen readers of his book from over 27 different countries.

   

    “For the Love of Her is not just simply a book,” Christopher goes on to say. For years, it was a piece of work he felt passionate about. After having gone through the struggle he was subjected to by way of the woman who raised him, his mother, he felt it was time to conquer the giant.

    

     After penning his story within a time frame of six months, Christopher decided to put his work out on the market. Within weeks, Christopher was being called to speak at book clubs, churches, and convention centers. His platform was child abuse and with that being said, he not only made big noise in the city of Augusta, Ga., concerning child abuse, but he’s even gotten the chance to help mentor youths that may have been struggling with similar issues.

   

    “Everyone has a story to tell,” Christopher goes on to say. “The only difference in my story versus your story is timing.” Not everyone wants to share stories of the past, but for Christopher Ty he was left feeling completed liberated, after bringing to life the dark places of his past.

    

      Finally, Christopher has now embarked upon another journey. He’s now in the early stages of completing his first fiction novel. The best advice he gives those desiring to write fiction or nonfiction is to write, write and write some more. Aside from that, you must also “read, read, read,” He stated. “When it’s all said and done,” he goes on to say, “We all have the potentials to pull the best of us to the forefront of our minds and succeed.”

    

   Authors

Who Deserves This?

 We all have freedom of speech, right? But at what expense does one lay down their own emotions just to be told something that is condensing? If you don't know what I mean, I'm talking about being cursed at or cursed out. 
    It's one thing to be cursed at by some random strangers, but it's another thing to be cursed out by those that profess to love you. When I say the word "those," I'm speaking of a mother, father, sister, brother, husband or wife. Yes, those kinds of people, the ones that say, "I love You" should never have a reason to curse at a love one.
    Well, this articles deals with just that. Have you asked yourself this question before. How is it that the one that says, I love you, ends up cursing me out when things go wrong... Is that love? If you don't know the answer I'll explain. 
   First, no, it's not love. Anyone that calls you a bad name is doing it for a reason. I know, I know, their are those that might call you an ugly name then go back and beg for forgiveness, right? Yes. But, you must not forget this. Anyone that curses at you don't, themselves, understand in it's entirety what it means to love, and as long as you give them the right to speak to you in such a condensing way, they will continue to strengthen their own negative behavior,  as long as you tolerate it. 
   Second, lets think about cursing. When one curses, they not only defile themselves, but they impute a curse over into the spirit of those that are being cussed out.
     When you see or hear those that are in a relationship curse at each other, the most unfortunate thing that occurs each time a curse word is used, is the desecration of the relationship. In other words, if you are being cussed at or are cursing someone else, your being is either being desecrated or you are desecrating someone else with your tongue. 
    Finally, the tongue is one of the most powerful organs of the body. If the brain can be seen as a storage place and the intestine as the universe of the body, then the tongue should be viewed as the axis. Your tongue has the power to make someone happy, destroy them, confuse them or build them up each and every time your mouth opens. Just as the earth rotates on it's axis, your tongue holds a great deal of power within itself. So, when you understand your self worth and realize that you are one of your greatest assets (unto yourself) and no one has that right to desecrate your being, you'll then understand that protecting such a great asset isn't only a right, but it's something that every one deserves and that is, the love that streams from the heart.

Christopher Ty
www.Christopher-Ty.com

The Black Community...Paralyzed From Within...

Growing up in the black community was a daunting task. As I grew older there were a number of things in which I realized then, that I was too blind to see during my years underneath the veil within my community.

   Like any other community, the black community is perceived the way it is perceived secondary to the actions that occur within its setting. In order to understand and arrive at a conclusion that is not only justified but truthful concerning the black community, one must admit to what they know to exist and then reform by way of teaching and educating.

     As the same black man today than I was yesteryear but with a bit more wisdom, when I read different articles concerning the black community I ask myself several questions. One of those questions are: Who are they that commit violence within the community? Secondly, why does police seem to patrol black communities more so than other communities within my district?

     Well, as I thought about this, my mind reflected back upon the days in which I grew up within my own community. My community consisted of hustlers, gamblers, pimps, drug dealers, two-bit robbers, and peddlers trying to sell everything they could sell.  Having knowing that, one may ask, why not call the police, right? Yes, but no. You see, within the black community, the real problem are the (black) men that are in search of trying to become something they’ve never learned how to become…,  Men of Standards. So, many find themselves committing crimes (selling drugs, robbery, etc.) against each other in order to get ahead.

     Furthermore, I blame black men because it is black men that are considered to be the foundation of the family. At least that is what many proclaim to be (I’m a Man!).

     Not only are we considered the foundation of the family, but when things go wrong within our surrounding communities, 9 times out of 10, the problem starts with the men, right?  So, by knowing this, if the problem starts with men, then why not start with trying to create better men within the community? It’s never about getting officers to respect black men, but it’s all about the individual (black men) showing respect for himself and his neighbor at all times. I repeat, all times.

    Onward, it’s impossible for better men to be created, if unmade men are selling drugs, fighting, shooting, robbing and doing everything wrong within their communities, without someone holding them responsible. Having said that, this is why the presence of police officers are within black communities so much. This is a fact, and if one denies this, then, they’ve never lived within an inner city community.

    Finally, my point is this. A community is only good as the people that lives within it, no matter what race, or ethnicity they are. However, if the people within the community continue to accept or make purchases of stolen items, withhold information to protect the wrong, or refuse to educate and better equip the children within the community with better morals and better character, then, how does one remove the noose from around the neck of the community, that could possibly be suffering from years of asphyxiation?

By Author Christopher Ty

 http://www.amazon.com/Noose-Black-Community-Christopher-Sullivan/dp/1105562484

Why Not You!..

                            You Are You-niquely Made!

     Have you ever been told that you would never amount to anything, you aren't good
enough, or that is out of your league?  If you have, then chances are,  statements like these may have hurt your feelings, right?

     I can't begin to tell you how many times people whose lives I've spoken into, have shared with me the devastation they've gone through all because of negativity similar to the aforementioned. I, myself, grew up being told on a regular basis how I would never accomplish anything in life and that I was useless. These were words I sometimes believed, especially when I failed at some random task I was attempting to succeed at.

  Initially, these were words, I was not only absorbed in, but they danced around in my mind throughout my life. The pain of it all is that, words like these were being told to me by the people I was most familiar with and they hurt badly. Isn't that how it is sometimes?

  Well, as time moved on, I discovered something truly unique. That major discovery was "myself." This may sound very basic or even vague, but there are so many people in this world that is still carrying the weight of a lie within the crevice of their mind all because they've never open there eyes to true "self-discovery."  A lie like this, will not only cause one to feel inadequate about their accomplishments in life, but it becomes a weight that resurfaces to the forefront of the mind time after time.
  
   The good thing is this. There are many things that you can do to become a better "you." Better yet, there are things that you can do to remove yourself from underneath a veil that has the power of reminding you of negative words. However, I will name  three things that will not only liberate you from past indiscretions but they will help maximize you in the best way possible.

•    Discovering You     

When people are influenced to commit bad acts or believe the untruth about themselves, they become prisoners of other people's opinions. One of the main reasons why negative people dispel negativity upon others is because it was done to them.  This is an unseen force that perpetuates itself and many fall victim to it. In order to discover you, you must be willing to liberate yourself from those things that anchor you in life. Liberation from anything that is negative, not only births freedom inside of you, but it allows you to grow in truth and opens your mind up to being the best that you can be. 

•  Dwell on those things that are Good:

Have you ever found yourself thinking about something bad some one has told you about yourself or said to you? I would like to think we all have, right? After years of fighting to liberate myself from past lies, I learn to dwell on good things. What do I mean by that? Well, for me, I not only separated myself from negative people, but I started to introduce positive words into my mind. I started remembering bible verses or good quotes that strengthen my mentality. This really helps. These good quotes not only became my weapons I used each time my mind trampled across negativity from the past, but they annihilated those negative thoughts until they were no more.

• Believe In Yourself:

Before I became fully liberated from believing a lie, I always wondered what other people thought about my actions. The reason I wondered what others thought was because I never fully believed that I was capable of fulfilling my own destiny. I was trapped by what others may have said against me and I needed other people's opinion to validate me. Not only is this a bad way to live your life, but you'll never discover your true potentials when you are depending on others to validate you.
 I come to realize that intrinsic richness is far more greater than external richness. When you start believing in yourself despite what others may say feel about you, you are then on your way to rediscovering the biggest and most valuable gem of all times. That priceless gem is YOU!


www.christopher-ty.com

The Road to Truth, Love and Non-Violence.

                             Our Rights vs. Truth and Love:

The foundation that has led to all the problems and issues in which we’ve witnessed throughout the media, all relates to perception, how we respond to perception and those ingredients called conflict; that experience that is created post-perception.

     I battled with writing this blog because it peels back the reflections upon our minds and this precipitates a gradual judgment on the basis of what is considered morally right, wrong and morally acceptable in our society of today.

     Onward, when one attempts to uncover the issues in which the world has been introduced to during the wake of Ferguson, we must realize that we all have a moral obligation to express our “truth” in the best way possible. This expression usually happens very fast and this is where perception (especially of another) can be misaligned and remains dangling in the balance. I mention the word “truth” because understanding truth is what liberates us from conditions of stored up memories in which our minds can easily reflect upon. Also, understanding the truth, paves the way for reconciliation. This pathway is first paved into the direction of ‘self’ and then from self, unto all others.

Next, the bigger question becomes this: how does the individual perceives ‘self’ and to what degree does the individual rectify his own actions, especially when he/she is wrong?

Needless to say, as Americans, we all have a moral right to “due process.” If we were to go further than that, the question then becomes; what moral rights should individuals put forth into society vs. what corruption or nature of sin does that same individual(s) extend upon society? This question causes the individual(s) to not only analyze “self” but it can hopefully deduce the fact concerning “you” the individual and remove the focus from what many fight against…, the system.  After all, law officials are only a body of people that have come together to establish this system and like anyone else, they too may find themselves vulnerable to crime at times.

Furthermore, a lack of understanding one’s cultural environment can easily lead to a misguided perception. One known fact is this: We all have perception. Having said that, each individual must (or should) take the responsibility within his or her own behavioral rights, to not only embrace their own moral rights, but while doing so, extend the rod of truth and righteousness unto others, without the color of one’s skin becoming a factor in such judgment.

      In truth, another issue we have witnessed throughout the media within the last few weeks is this: Must we truly consider the murder of anyone regardless of race, morally right or morally wrong? How does one justify police brutality or the killing of any man, whether he’s Black, White, Asian, etc.? On the flip side, how can black men (in particularly) justify the increased murder rates throughout the major cities within this country, but not take a similar proactive role, even if the system (cops) is not to blame for such murders? I mentioned both sides because this is where perception comes into conflict amongst many people. When I look at the number of murders that have occurred in places like Chicago, Arkansas, New Jersey, and other areas, one must ask, how does the same people arrive at marching with slogans saying I CAN’T BREATH, but not lift their attention to areas like Chicago that had nearly 500 murders over a year and a half ago, can be very concerning.

 My point is this: One mustn’t allow the system to validate their perception of truth concerning policemen against minorities, while refusing to stand up against other acts of violence, especially within inner city neighborhoods. If this is allowed, people will always find themselves marching against the system rather than ameliorating the lives of those we dwell amongst. Why? Because it’s easier to throw stones at a giant rather than make peace with those that are at a similar height.

Although some laws may change, it’s the system that is the intra-character of this society and it’s our behavior pitched into this invisible veil that determines the consequences that follows. In other words, Change starts with “you,” and from this type of positive change, better morals and character traits are built upon it, only when we work towards justifying our positive motives.

Furthermore, as Americans, we have always strived hard to liberate ourselves from the very thing that incarcerates our progress each and every time we pinpoint “racism” to be the culprit. In other words, can it truly be the nature of sin that people are more susceptible to engaging in, rather than the violence, something based upon what perception of beliefs some have entrained concerning a group of people? Or, have we been socialized to believe in the negative actions we’ve witnessed for ourselves, only to influence our cultural environment in a way only (we) see fit?

I ask this question because I’ve seen this work both ways. For instance, a group of people may view police officers to be one way, and police officers may view a group of people in a different way. In the end, the most important aspect boils down to individual respect that starts with “self” and is expressed to others. For some people, understanding where respect derives from, is the key to administering it. Just as policeman have a civic duty to express respect to all they serve, citizens also have a duty to respect those men and women that put on that badge each and every day in order to serve citizens.

Although these questions may open your eyes to many different pathways in which one can choose from, there is one final premise in particular I would like to address.

First, men and women alike are socialized underneath this governmental system in which many depend on to be the truth, above all other things. The one thing in which some neglect to understand is this: The system, more than anything, is an evolving mindset in which people have put forth to be the solution for most things, but it’s not the defining truth of all things.

 History has shown us that fighting the system will only lead to chaos. Underneath these experiences, there is an expectation “to do right,” that has been put in place by incredible minds, even if those working alongside of such a system, chooses to falter along the way from time to time. Remember, just as they falter, consequences should be extended in order to justify the means.

 In hindsight, fighting against the system in order to be perceived of having a higher quality of moral values, will always come into conflict with the very nature of the individual(s), secondary to his or her perception on what is considered to be morally acceptable in society as a whole. Not on the streets or your home, etc., but Society as a whole.

To make it much clearer, fighting against the sin of the individual(s) is a war worth waging against, especially when you know that your greatest weapon utilized to destroy such a daunting task is simply LOVE…

     Finally, there will be those that will overlook the whole ideal of understanding this concept. Why? Because their minds have been interlocked on changing the system in which many may consider to be racist, rather than dwelling on moral truth and establishing moral values for the good of ‘self’, family and those that are connected. This can be useful amongst any ethnic group of people. Rather than fighting the fight to change the mind of the system, we as Americans must fight to display World Centric Love, and by doing so, everything else is capable of being penetrated.

Christopher Ty

http://www.Christopher-Ty.com

   

You're not Black Enough! The response of Charles Barkley.

 In the words of Charles Barkley after hearing the comment made about NFL quarterback Russell Wilson not being black enough, he goes on to set the record straight. Mr. Barkley asserts: "For some reason we are brain washed to think, if you're not a thug or an idiot, you're not black enough. If you go to school, make good grades, speak intelligent, and don't break the law, you're not a good black person. It's a dirty, dark secret in the black community."
   This comment made, not being black enough, is a comment that most, if not all blacks can identify with. Not only is it a comment that many blacks can identify with, but it's a comment in which we have failed to come to grips with understanding. Once such a statement is understood, it is imperative to strip this phrase from the conscious of those to follow. For many years, blacks have struggled to identify with their own self identification label. Much of our being in "search of" can be seen in how we dress, how we walk, how we dress up our cars, the type of music that is embraced and the slang we sometimes use towards each other. In other words, many of us have accepted self annihilating experiences and when we witness other blacks outside of those parameters, it prompts us to bring about judgment about who they really are, because we are still in search of who we are.
   The comment, "you're not black enough," is not only a shallow comment that arises from the minds of those that struggle with the insecurity of being black, but it pulls back the label on what ignorance stands for, leaving little room for educational, social, and at best, moral growth.
     As Mr. Barkley eluded to, we should never adhere to anything that goes against the grain of positive morals and ethics. Without a shadow of doubt, we must understand that it's embedded within the conscious of everyone, that a person's looks, words and behavior becomes the first line of defense as to what type of character one is dealing with from the external side. In other words, I have no desire to look like a thug, act like a thug, or display behavior that is opposite of what I profess to be. These are things that have no color, they're simply traits in which we purposefully pass on from generation to generation only because of an accepted "affinity."
    Finally, at some point, the art of educating our youths will have to rise up in the mind of all that have a desire to see growth over those things that sow destruction. Without the continuous education of the aforementioned, blacks will continue to adhere to self ignominy and will forever remain in search of quality character traits, which are already, seemingly available.

In the end, I agree with Mr. Barkley.

www.Christopher-Ty.com