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How the Lack of Courage can Kill your Dreams

     Throughout the many pathways of life, we embark upon experiences that are sometimes challenging and sometimes not. The question is; how does one cross those barriers that seem so difficult to conquer? If you can't relate to barriers in life, then think about that one resistance that seems to paralyze you with fear and holds you hostage for no apparent reason. Barriers could be you trying to get into a school of your choice, you trying to leave a relationship that is unhealthy, a desire to leave an old job for a better job one, or anything else that creates fear unknowingly. The answer is, you must have Courage.
     Not only should you have courage, but you must practice courage with consistency. Courage is defined as "the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger,pain, etc." 
     When it comes to standing before barriers in life, make a practice of overcoming your barriers rather than taking the pathway of least resistance. In other words, without courage, it is hard to practice anything consistently!
     Onward, life is filled with different types of barriers that don't go away. One may ask; "Well how do I conquer them?" First, you must recognize the fear that seems to paralyze your emotions. Many people fail at trying to maintain courage because they allow their emotions to dictate their pathways in life. In other words, having a weak mindset about the situation at hand will cause one to have a lack of courage which ultimately leads to failure. So, make a good practice of these 3 things below:

(a)  Exercise your rights: This is done by believing that you have the ability to overcome that which is before you and without exercising your beliefs, your mind gets weaker. 

(b) Speak it into existence: Some people will never believe in conquering their goals because they never speak it. When you speak of having courage, this solidifies your attitude towards moving through the storm standing before you. Remember; once you have moved through your barriers don't look back.

(c) Be consistent: Once you start moving towards conquering whatever it is you set out to conquer, you must be consistent. Don't just say what you have a desire to do, better yet, move your words into action and stay consistent with it. Even if you are moving one yard a day in conquering your goals, the good thing is that you're moving. This shows consistency and consistency pays off!

     Finally, anyone that has a mind to think, has the mind to conquer. Remember, be courageous in all of your efforts when it comes down to conquering your goals. Don't allow others to confine you or contain you with fear. Liberate yourself beyond your wildest imagination and continue to stand upon your strengths and push aside your weakness.

By Christopher-Ty
  Author of "For The Love Of Her"

  
      
     

The ART of Believing in Self.....

     I have met many people along this pathway in life and would you believe that some of the most incredible people struggle with believing in "self". Believing in yourself sounds easy, but in truth, when people fail to believe in "self" they end up getting trapped in bad relationships, battle with feeling inadequate when it comes to making hard decisions, or simply depend on a host of others in order to make a decision on whether or not to do it or not.

    First of all, in order to believe in "self" you must understand that you are a unique individual that is capable of moving forward on behalf of your decisions even if others fail to see what you see. The art of believing in "self" is something that is bestowed within all of us. The difference lies within the way we choose to act on what we desire to conquer. Many people remain stagnated in life because they fail to see themselves any further than where they stand at the moment, so after while they become content.

     If you believe that you have the ability to believe, then moving forward on your goal becomes an experience that is easy to conquer. For example, do you believe that you can set goals and conquer them? This question is relatively easy to answer because it doesn't require much work to say "yes" or "no". The problem starts with this. Many of us set goals, but then it stops right there. So many goals go unconquered because people forget to stay active at achieving their goals and before long, this theory of "belief" becomes diminished. As time goes on, we sometimes develop a mindset to start projects over and over without ever conquering them and after while we develop this type of behavior which makes us feel incomplete. 

     

 Here are some tips you can follow in order to make yourself a better YOU, as you create a stronger Belief within yourself.

• Know who you are and believe within "yourself" by speaking this subconsciously. I still make good practice by looking at myself in the mirror and saying, "you have the potentials to do what you desire. Chris, (I tell myself), I believe that you are able to succeed at this challenge. This is done for several reasons. First, words are powerful and if anyone is going to speak your future into existence, its you. Second, it helps to create a stronger belief systems within yourself.
• Next, Pull your potentials forward and give them responsibilities. There are many people that have potentials to do great things, but they never give their talents responsibility. When talents aren't given responsibilities, then their belief system becomes weaken overtime. Before long, one can find themselves giving up on many things and this only weakens their self-esteem level. 
• Finally, remind yourself of the challenge. Whatever the challenge maybe that stands in front of you.., when you remind yourself of conquering it, this helps to exercise your belief in doing so. Exercising your belief is synonymous to exercising your muscles. Just as your muscles grow when you exercise them, believing in yourself will also grow stronger when you remind yourself of the challenge your're seeking to conquer. Remember this, if everyone in this world believed in you more than you believe in yourself, its useless.You always have the potentials to conquer goals, but without activity, you will remain stagnated.  Christopher-Ty..

Donald Sterling: Money can't pay for Character...

     The latest news circling around the United States involves one of the worst expressions that can sat upon the face of America and that expression is Racism. As many people know, racism has not only been a thing of the past, but as Donald Sterling just showed us, it can camouflage itself in the deepest portals of ones' soul and move through life with hidden agendas in the most manipulative fashion.
     What is it that makes people feel this way about a different culture of people? Does people like Donald Sterling really believe that his race is one of the elite races or is it just a misfire of brain cells that causes a delusional state of being for the moment?
     Whatever it maybe, one must realize that "you should never allow your talent to take you places, where you character can't keep you!" 
     As we all may know, having good character is not only essential, but its paramount if we are to live and interconnect with others. Some may say, "well he grew up in an era, where racism was taught" and easily let him off the hook for his finite way of thinking and his display of ignorance. Although it maybe true that his era (him being 80 yrs. old) may have socialized him to think in such a twisted way, he must recognize that its been the friendliness of time that has allowed him to rejoice in the wealth he's earned but now must suffer with the belief he beholds.
    Not only does such a mark of racism reappears across the face of America from time to time but if it remains untreated, then this mark will open up more as infection sets in and take its course. This imperfect mark will never heal itself if Americans continue to walk around and never acknowledge the "blemish mark" in which everyone seems to focus on when staring "you" in the face.
     Finally, the fortunate part is that there is a resolve for such a matter as this. The resolve deals with true acceptance and true forgiveness. The unfortunate part deals with the fact that some people simply refuse to demonstrate worldcentric love. However, if we as Americans continue to move through life treating others in a way we would never want to be treated ourselves, then America as we know it would always be seen just as others view Mr. Donald Sterling at this time and that is,......Fake.

THE BEST OF YOU!!: Pulling Your Potentials Forward.....

THE BEST OF YOU!!: Pulling Your Potentials Forward.....:      Have you ever been told that you wouldn’t be right for something or you don’t have what it takes? What about people saying: you’re not ...

Pulling Your Potentials Forward.....

     Have you ever been told that you wouldn’t be right for something or you don’t have what it takes? What about people saying: you’re not cut out for this or you need to try something else? These words are what I call words of disgrace, and usually people that spew such words are people that are venomous. I want spend a whole lot of time talking about people that are venomous, but what I will talk about is you and potentials that are within YOU…
First of all, when it comes down to believing in “you,” you should be the number one candidate. It’s very simple but often too many times we need other people’s permission or opinion in order to get us over the wall, when in fact, we host the best opinion of ourselves, within our self. Having confidence is not a thing of the past, nor is confidence some old cliche in which people throw out there just to sound good. In fact, when you are confident in what you believe in, then the only thing that matters is how often you challenge your “potentials” to complete the task. That’s right! Many of us have potentials along with desires, beliefs, and other goals found shut up on the inside of us, but when we give our potentials responsibilities we slowly open up the door “within ourselves,” allowing our potentials to flow.
Furthermore, it is not until we open up those doors, that we will witness a change. As many already know, change is inherent, but when we decide to move forward in life, we must be willing to ignite our actions, if we are to move. Here are some steps to make it happen.

  1. First we must be willing to ignite our actions. Igniting our actions will push things forward. I know many people that still talk about their dreams, desires, hopes, and every other thing you could possibly think of. However, only talking about it leaves you at the pre-planning stage which is held captive within your mind. You must get it out and act on it.

2. Remain consistent. Whenever you ignite your project in life, there must be consistency, if you are to see results. This is critical, because for many, some people are starters and some are finishers. If you find yourself being a starter or just a finisher, then there is a break within your ignition process that must be connected in order to move from start to finishing. This can only happen when you’re consistently working your goals if you desire to see results.

3. See the finish line. “Without a vision, people perish.” If you don’t know where you are going or if you can’t see yourself obtaining those goals, then your vision will surely perish. Why not believe in yourself and hang your goals on the wall. I have a small board in my bedroom and on this board, I’ll write down what I plan to accomplish, and I’ll put dates to them just to challenge myself all the more. In other words, I’m able to see the very thing I’m speaking and hoping to achieve.

4. Finally, Just do it! For example, if you plan to start exercising but can never seem to find time to do it, then just do it. I found this to be hard, but at the same time easy. On some days, there is not enough time in the day.., at least that’s what I’ve convinced myself of. But, when I need to exercise and I have to work, I simply take my lunch break and speed walk around the building or along the sidewalk during my break. I may spend 5 minutes inhaling food (not really), then I commit to my goals. You can use this example with any of your goals you have in mind. The thing to remember is to become creative, ignite your actions, stay consistent while doing so, see the finish line and just do it!